Marriage is a true bliss when the couple are committed to the same spiritual course and life goals. Marriage should bring into you a stronger confidence you will fulfill your purpose in Christ, not otherwise. Journeying with God together makes for the greatest beauty of marriage.
That is why you must choose your spouse wisely, and establish the right motive for being married. Let your marriage draw you closer to God and motivate your commitment to His purpose
Marriage opens a new chapter for everyone involved; beautiful or ugly. No one gets married and remains the same. You either get better or grow worst from your initial state. Bringing someone else into your life or cleaving your life to someone else is not a playful thing; it demands a very conscious sit down to think and count the cost.
There’s more to marriage than the emotions, the looks, the rings, and status change. Marriage is far bigger than that. It’s bigger than having sex and bringing forth children. Marriage is the beginning of an amplified or new direction in destiny; it can lead you speedily into heaven or into hell. It can be the beginning of days of joy or sorrow. Some people had their best laugh at the wedding day; since then, its been a whole different world of pain and sorrow. To others, the laughter at the wedding day was just the beginning of a series of laughter and joy. That’s why you must take time to choose your partner, because life will take on a new turn after that.
First, take time to establish yourself in Christ and to be convinced about what you live for. Don’t get married and bring into your agenda your marriage as an urgent prayer topic. God made it for a testimony, based on how you start it. When your life is totally yielded to God, you won’t want anything that takes you away from your first lover. And God won’t push you into an institution that will torment you and take your attention off Him.
Take time to pray about your life partner; take time to seek godly counsel. Take time to read Christian books on marriage and understand what your responsibilities are. Understand also what the role of your spouse is. And when you start courtship, agree on these things. Agree on your spiritual priorities. Agree that your corporate lives are only as effective as your individual commitment to live for the Lord God and to fulfill His will. Agree that both of you won’t live for self but for the Lord.
Such simple advice saves destinies. If we had just as much respect and patience in preparing for marriage as we did for our academic pursuits, we would have more blissful marriages, truly glorifying God.
